If you feel anxious when having conversations, group meals, celebrations or any type of meeting with people, you have probably tried to avoid these situations.
This type of anxiety is activated in social situations in which you are exposed to the evaluation of other people, you feel observed and probably feel that you are judged. Therefore, you feel afraid and have many doubts about how to act, or about experiencing symptoms of anxiety and that other people will evaluate it negatively (that they reject you, that they embarrass you, or that they simply feel offended because it seems that you do not listen to them or are not interested in you). the conversation).
With this in mind, it is logical that you have tried to avoid these situations, or stay in them for a short period of time. In addition to the impact that you may have experienced in your work, with your family and friends... which may have caused you to isolate yourself.
But... why does this happen to me? and what can I do to make it go away?
First of all, we will have to explore your life history and see when these symptoms appeared, and if we can relate it to specific events (you may or may not have already identified the origin). In any case, we will delve into that fear of being "analyzed" or "rejected", and the expectations about the fear of being judged as anxious, weak, unpleasant, etc.
Assertive communication can also be trained, with the aim that you acquire tools to approach conversations, express yourself and listen actively, without a submissive attitude or a tendency to please for fear of rejection. In parallel, social skills can be trained to express disagreement or establish limits. There are more techniques for you to expose yourself, gradually and in the safe environment of therapy, to these social situations through "role playing", that is, rehearsing specific situations as a "performance". In this way, you will face several possible situations, you will expand your repertoire of behaviors and thoughts, and you will feel more skillful.
If you have identified yourself, do not hesitate to contact us to evaluate your case and guide you. The mere fact of going to therapy already involves exposure to one of these social situations, and it will be of great help if you allow yourself a safe "testing ground" that prepares you for day-to-day situations.
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